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As you get more comfortable with anal sex with a partner you trust, you can explore different positions. Spooning is another great pick for backdoor beginners because the position gives you shared control of your movements and adds an extra touch of intimacy, which may help you relax as well. Doggy-style position allows your partner easy entry but also puts them in full control, which might not be the best for your first time. If you feel pain at any point, have your partner ease up, stop, or switch positions.
If you wondering when is the right time to engage in first-time anal sex, remember that there’s no right or wrong answer. For some people, anal sex is a no-go, and for others it’s a possibility. Either way is A-OK. You can have an exciting sex life with or without butt sex.
You should never try anything you’re not comfortable with, but if you are trying anal for the first time just know that it doesn’t have to be this big, painful deal. Take your time, use lube, and stay connected to your partner – it’s way less scary than you think.
Anal play with a partner needs patience, , and trust. That means taking your time at every stage—all the way from initial discussions through to the very first time you are penetrated or penetrate someone else.
When it comes to penetration itself, it’s usually best to let the receiving partner be in control, at least initially. They’re the ones at risk of experiencing pain. Dictating the pace and depth of penetration will minimize pain and ease any lingering nerves. One of the best positions for first-time anal is doggystyle. It allows the receiver to be in control of the movement, and go as slowly as possible. Plus, doggystyle helps open up that whole area back there. Side-by-side spooning (where you’re facing the same direction) is also a good beginner position, though the pitcher will have slightly more control than the catcher.
